Preparing for the move
After the wedding I could finally start planning my move to Germany. That meant I had to start selling as much as possible, since I would not be able to easily move it over to South Germany without spending alot of money on transport. After I had sold as much as possible, I had to pack up the stuff I wanted to keep and store it at my parents basement. And it was ALOT of stuff to go through. Some stuff I also just threw away at the junk yard.
I got fired
In the middle of all the preperation, my boss suddenly calls me into a meeting and told me that I would not be allowed to work remotely from Germany after all, even though this had been the plan for YEARS. Suddenly they had now decided that they wanted people to be in the office more so that we could do better team work. And even though I partly understand it, the timing for this message was strange since it happen just when I told my job I was finally ready to move to Germany. So that of course made me feel betrayed and I can’t say it’s been very easy to deliver top quality work lately. It simply unmotivating to work for someone like this, when you have truly tried to give it your all and this is how you get repayed. Thanks.
It took some weeks for this to sink in properly, and I feel more stable now, but it still stings. I do however try my best to continue doing as good of a job as I can.
Issues with the landlord
Then came the really hard part: Dealing with my landlord. I always thought he was a very nice guy, and he even let me have my pets in the apartment. And most of the time I was there have been great! He seemed respectful and was always smiling. Until everything changed.
About 6 month back I had a bad encounter with my landlord after I fixed a lamp that I broke without telling him about the damage right away. And even when I told him about breaking the lamp, he never fixed it himself, so I hired and electrician to fix it and thought that was a good thing since he didnt have to deal with it. But no. He went off on me really bad, becially overreacted like crazy, and it made me feel extremely bad and kinda like I was no longer welcome in my own apartment. I kinda wanted to just move right there and then. But I stayed and sucked it up.
When I contacted him about moving out of the apartment, I thought things had calmed down. But I also knew his wife had recently moved out and he was probably not feling at his best, and I was scared to talk to him after the whole lamp situation. I had three months resignation time from the time I told him I was moving (late October), so that meant I would have to pay for November, December and January, unless he found someone else to rent the place befor that time. I moved out mid November and was completely done moving and cleaning the aparment on the 21th of november.
A few days prior to the 21th he inspected the aparment. And the first thing he wrote to me on a message was: “I went into to apartment, but it was not easy to see much because I could not make the lights work. So what you have done to them, I do not know, they seem turned off? I could not make them work. I tried to click them, nothing works. Why are they turned off, is there a reason? They didn’t work when I clicked.” So I drove up there immediately, very upset since it was very clear by the way he worded himself in the message that he acused me of fucking with the lights. When I arived, the lights were on, but he kept giving me shit about almost everything. How much I had fucked up the apartment. For instance; the trim at the bottom of the wall in one of the room was a bit scatched up (not horrible) and he said it was so bad that the whole trim had to be replaced and that it was more than normal wear and tear. He also commented on a lot of other things and acuse me of “doing stuff i shouldnt have done”, thought it was mostly just paint missing for a few spots. AND I had been living there for almost 4 years. At the end he even acused me of hanging up a housing for some lamp wires without perimssion (even though he was the one that got me those housings). I got more and more pissed. Not cause I can’t take critisism, but simply because the way the spoke to me was getting really annoying. I was also still annoyed with the lamp situation 6 months ago. So I exploded at him and we more or less started screaming at eachother. I tried to leave cause I knew nothing good comes out of talking to someone while you are very angry, but he told me to talk it out right away. But in the end he was the one that ended up leaving the aparmtent without saying a word.
I tried sending him a message, where I tried to apologize for anything I might have said while I was angry. I also apologized for the damage, though I didnt feel like I had done anything too bad. I just wanted to make things right and clear the air. I really didn’t want to leave it like that. He didn’t respond till much later and it was clear he hadn’t really read or understood my message at all. At this point I was so stressed out, and in so mucn pain, that I got really drunk on a wednesday evening (I never drink). I was just so desperat to numb my self from everyhting that had happened and everything I was feeling.
I went back the next day and cleaned up the aparment a bit better (cause it was half decently cleaned, which was on of the things the commented about, and I took to heart and fixed it). He ended up giving me my whole deposit back, but was clearly unhappy about it. It seems like he is instead gonna make me pay till the end of january without even trying to find someone else to rent before that time . And its in his right to do so due to the resignation time. At least it is over now and I can move on with my life. But I really dislike when stuff like this happens and you can’t end on good terms. I hope whatever is going on in his life gets resloved and that he will feel better, cause I suspect he is not doing too good.
Moving in with my parents
I was not going back to Germany till the first week of December. So since I had decided to move out of my apartment a bit early, I had to move in with my parents for a few days. I setup my computer in the guest room and used the bed as a chair. Soon I will have to format it and give it to my dad since it’s too big to bring with me to Germany.
It’s been a bit nice to spend time with my parents before I go, and I’ve had express delivery on clean clothes (cause my mom wash them so quickly)! I have truly felt like a teenager again.
Before I moved in with them, I was on a cut, but it’s been impossible to maintain it. I will just have to restart the cut once I have setteled down properly in Germany.
